Is your kid playing great in practice...
...but struggling in games?
Well if so, I've got a little secret that I want to share with you right now:
More swings in the cage is NOT going to fix their problem.
Neither is telling them what they're doing wrong, or suggesting that he/she "relax" or "stay confident".
It's not that these are bad suggestions or anything...in fact, they're spot on.
The problem is, it just doesn't work.
It didn't work for me when I was a player.
I always went into panic mode when I struggled...even in little league.
But lucky for me, my slumps never lasted *too* terribly long...
...so when the hits came back, my confidence came back.
But fast forward to my last year of professional baseball with the Astros, and the cold streaks got longer and deeper.
Back in 2005, I spent much of the year not only fighting to stay above .200, but also fighting the loss of confidence and the MAJOR fear about the future.
"What happens if I don't turn this around?"
I had no confidence at the plate and my coaches (and everyone else with eyeballs) could see it plain as day.
Coaches tried to encourage me with "Don't worry about it, just play"
or "You're a good player, believe in yourself."
And while their suggestions were perfect advice....
It was TERRIBLE instruction!
Like, "Oh okay just be confident *snaps fingers*, now I am better!"
You can't talk someone into being confident, and while I appreciated those kind suggestions...
...they never improved my confidence...
or my results.
And now that I'm a father, those suggestions don't work on my son either.
In practice he'd be great. He had as much ability as everyone, his actions were smooth, confident and strong.
And then come game time, things would change.
After a tough at bat or two (or shoot, sometimes before his first at bat!) that player I've seen all week in practice...
would just disappear.
So that'd start the cycle of him feeling bad about himself, wondering what other people are thinking about him and finally thinking bad thoughts about what kind of player he is.
So now that I was seeing the doubts, fears and concerns that haunted my mind during my playing days now playing tricks on my son...
...and my hollow suggestions of "just stay confident, be aggressive" having no impact at all...
I knew there had to be a better way.
And there IS a better way.
Now, here's something to think about...
What if getting your kid to consistently perform at their best was less about following directions and endless repetitions in practice...
...and more about giving them the tools and steps for them to handle their emotions to ALLOW for their training and skill to shine on gameday.
Really think about that.
Because the mind left alone on the baseball or softball field is like a wild beast rampaging through a city.
You can't just talk this beast into behaving...
...or just hope that he goes away.
Action needs to be taken to eliminate the problem.
Now, I have four techniques to share with you that when applied will make an ACTUAL difference in your kid's performance.
But before I do I want to share a quick example with you...
The Jones' vs The Lovejoy's is a concept I came up with to help demonstrate the two camps or mindsets that us as parents and players operate within.
Although these are not real “flesh and blood” people per se — their traits are absolutely real and based on real people.
You’re currently one of ’em.
Which one? … well, you’ll need to read the rest of this page to discover that.
But know this … one of them is struggling through this baseball/softball process. The other is crushing it.
You see, the Jones family means well.
Little Jones loves baseball.
And while he's not the best on his team, he has his moments when he puts it all together when he's really great.
He says that he wants to play in the big leagues someday, and while that's too far off to think about, his parents want to give him every opportunity to reach his goals, whatever that might be.
The problem is that his smooth, quick, carefree swing that he shows at home and at practice hasn't been there on gamedays.
Look at his last at bat:
First pitch, the pitcher comes right at him with a fastball down the middle, and everything about him is slower.
His swing just drifts through the zone, no resemblance to the confident swing Mr Jones has seen him take a thousand times.
"Swing the bat! Be aggressive!" Dad shouts suggests.
Now down 0-1, he already looks tight in the box.
"Why is he standing like that?" Dad wonders.
Pitch comes and he tries to swing harder, but the result is more of a herky jerky swing with no rhythm...timing is all off.
The next two pitches are both balls, he has a pretty good eye most of the time.
Then the 2-2 pitch comes, he takes his hack and again...it looks slower.
He makes contact but it's not that solid. Ground ball to second base and they get him out. No hit for little Jones.
And this happens time and time again.
Dad thinks "If only he would use his GOOD swing, things would be so much better."
And on the car ride home, Dad really gets on a roll.
He doesn't yell...but he's not exactly calm either.
"What were you doing on that first at bat?"
"Just be aggressive"
"You know that thing you were doing with your hands in practice this week that worked so well? You didn't do that at all today."
And so is everyone else in the car.
Now, back to the real world...
...and I'll be honest with you, me and my son have been just like the Jones family.
But I finally decided that I didn't want this to be our experience.
I wanted my kid to give HIMSELF a chance to succeed, and see what he can do.
And I certainly don't want our baseball experience (which should be peak Father/Son bonding right?) to be be filled with such tension.
So I looked into options.
I read books.
I called on the best minds I could get a hold of.
And I found fantastic news.
There are ACTUALLY steps and strategies that players can use to combat their nerves and play their best baseball.
There is a way to become the Lovejoy's....
And what I found is that there are MANY ways for a player to calm the mind and perform with freedom and confidence.
In fact, there were so many good strategies that it made me kinda mad!
Like, this would have been really helpful, ya know?!
And in the year 2019 with this being such a problem, this just isn't okay for me.
Imagine if I sent a kid out into the forest and said, "Go kill a bear."
...and gave them no tool or weapon to accomplish the task!
"Figure it out my friend, find a way!
"...oh, and stay confident!"
That kid isn't going to last long out there.
And that's EXACTLY what we're doing with our kids on the diamond...
Hitting a ball isn't what's so hard. Catching isn't what is so hard...
...it's dealing with the mental demons!
We parents and coaches ask them to slay these demons and give them no tools to do so.
And the result??
Yep, these kids aren't lasting long out there.
But the strategies are out there and I didn't want to wonder "What if" I had shown these techniques to my kid.
He wasn't going to be a Jones, he was going to be a Lovejoy.
So the first technique to making that transition is to.....
The emotion of feeling nervous feels ALMOST EXACTLY like the emotion of being excited.
The difference is simply in how the mind labels these feelings.
So when a player feels those vibrations in the body, he or she is not to say that he's "nervous" or has "the jitters"...
...rather he is "excited".
He is "ready".
Changing the words we use will LITERALLY change the way our brain signals to the body.
So instead of trying to perform the task of hitting a baseball with the body thinking "Oh no, there's a problem"...
...the body now believes "Ok this is great, we're prepared and all is perfect. Let's go".
Which mindset do you think will allow for more fluid and confident motions?
Feeling these vibrations of "excitement" are not just normal, they're required.
As Hannah Huesman, mental skills coach for the Philadelphia Phillies told me during the Youth Baseball Summit:
"You don't want to calm down. That's not the goal."
Take a look at these three race horses:
Now you tell me, if these horses were going to race 60 seconds from now...
Who are you betting your money on?
Look at horse number one, he is nice and relaxed.
Shoot, he's laying down!!!
He's the horse our kids *think* they should feel like when they compete.
When we tell our kids to relax, they THINK that they shouldn't feel any emotion at all, and when they STILL feel the emotion they believe that something is wrong with them personally...deepening their lack of confidence and intensifying the anxiety.
Now look at horse number three, he's fired up!
The emotions of the moment are getting the best of him, and has lost focus on the task at hand.
And finally if you look closely at horse number two...
I want you to see this very clearly:
This horse is not calm.
It's hard to tell in the photo, his emotions have him walking a little sideways here.
The emotions are pumping through his body at a very high level, but he's still locked in to the moment.
If you're the owner of this horse with millions of dollars on the line..
...would you want him to calm down?
Of course not.
I was an infielder for my entire career, but my senior year in college I found myself in the closer role as well.
And one thing that I found was I *always* could throw harder in games.
It didn't matter how much I tried to amp myself up in the bullpen, there was an extra 2-3 MPH that I just couldn't access unless I felt the gametime adrenaline.
I realized that the game time emotions and adrenaline actually gave me a sort of super Power.
So instead of focusing on how "different" and "nervous" I was during the mound, I welcomed it.
"Yes, it's here! I'm ready to do this."
Understanding this concept will change everything.
I love this one...
This involves a lil role playing and visualization and is used by the Lovejoy's of the world.
Ask yourself, how would Mike Trout feel in the on deck circle?
How would he stand?
How would Mike Trout feel in the dugout after making an out?
Would he lose his confidence? Would he say bad things about himself? Would he think about quitting?
So YOU should behave the same way in those same situations.
Just straight up pretend if you have to.
Here's a great quote from "The Inner Game of Tennis":
"With our athletes we use a type of role playing.
We say, "Imagine that I am the director of a television series. Knowing that you are an actor that plays tennis, I ask if you would like to do a bit part as a top-flight tennis player. I assure you that you needn't worry about hitting the ball out or into the net because the camera will only be focused on you and will not follow the ball.
What I'm mainly interested in is that you adopt professional mannerisms, and that you swing your racket with superior self-assurance.
Above all, your face must express no self doubt. You should look as if you are hitting every ball exactly where you want to. Really get into the role, hit as hard as you like and ignore where the ball is actually going."
Tim Gallwey, "The Inner Game of Tennis"
This is so big.
You cannot wait to experience positive results before you start behaving with confidence.
I'm gonna say that again to make sure you get this one:
You cannot wait to experience positive results before you start behaving with confidence.
So act confident NOW, even if you don't have much reason to. And THEN positive results will follow.
And there is one more crucial element to becoming more like The Lovejoy's...
because there are two ways a player's emotions are influenced.
The first is through their own thoughts, which we've touched on already.
And the second is by what they are told.
Mom and Dad, if you want your kid to play like a Lovejoy, YOU have to make some adjustments as well.
And this isn't a "Oh hey say nice things to your kid because this is just a game and it's the right thing to do."
There's a little bit of that involved, but this is more of:
"This is what is effective in getting your child to perform at their best."
How does the ride home sound in your car?
When little Jones has a sub par game, he gets in the car and the instructing begins...
"Your stance looked too narrow today, make sure you get wider."
"Remember what we worked on practice? You didn't do that today."
"You're hitting a lot of pop ups, we need to hit the middle of the ball."
And Dad isn't wrong about any of these statements, but the fact remains...
...is that this isn't helping.
So little Jones came to the game nervous, made some mistakes and is now hearing all about it in the car.
SOUNDS LIKE FUN!!
But these problems need to be addressed, right?
So, what does the Lovejoy family car ride look like?
Talking with Jono Armold, pitching coach with the Texas Rangers and holder of a Masters degree in Psychology ...
...and all around great dude...
...his studies showed that players don't like being told what to do.
(Shocker, I know)
But they don't mind being asked questions.
"How were you feeling out there today?"
"What do you think went well today?"
"What could have gone better?"
By asking questions, little Lovejoy is encouraged to take ownership of his own growth and improvement.
Because he's prompted to think about how to improve, he is not feeling embarrassed about his mistakes.
Instead of focusing on all of the mistakes like the Jones' car, the Lovejoy are focusing on solutions and improvement.
And do you really want to know the magic of asking questions?
This one is so important...
Little Lovejoy almost always comes to the same conclusion that Dad wanted to tell him/her about in the first place.
So while Mr. Lovejoy is empowering his kid and is now looking for new ways to strengthen their confidence...
Mr. Jones is suggesting more batting practice.
"We'll get some extra swings in the cage. That will help iron it out."
But you tell me...
Will more swings in the cage fix the Jones' problem?
I've been a Jones and I'm living life currently as Lovejoy.
And it's good.
It's definitely better.
There are REAL methods you can use to help your kid manage their emotions.
And as you know, they're *so* close to being great.
They just has to get over that hump.
They just need a little help.
So I've put together the trainings that have helped transform our experience so much....
The trainings that your kid has been missing out on.
And before I get into the details of the program, I want you to know one thing:
It just works.
I've been so excited about the feedback we've gotten from parents so far (over 6,048 students since last April) because our kids - YOUR KID - want so badly to play well...
...and you'll spend hundreds, sometimes thousands of dollars in lessons and equipment...
and nothing on what is ACTUALLY holding them back.
Before today, you didn't know of an alternative - I know I didn't.
But your eyes are open now...
...and right now you have the opportunity to step up and give your child a MAJOR dose of positive mindset, encouragement and emotional control training that they so desperately need.
And all it takes is just a SINGLE concept to connect with your kid to turn them into a totally different player on gameday...
...to go from a Jones to a Lovejoy.
Here's an email from a recent student:
Brady has been struggling at the plate since he made the transition from coach pitch to live arm. He has a hard time with his training and confidence. At batting practice on Sunday he was struggling so I told him about using your "song" tip while he was up to bat. It was unbelievable the change and impact that it made. He started hitting the ball and we could see his confidence grow right in front of us. His last hit was a one hopper to the fence and he was on top of the world. What you are doing for these kids is not only amazing but it works and is so easy to do. Thank you so much for the job you are doing for these kids! -Brian W.
Sometimes kids need juuuuuust one little boost, or permission to let themselves play well.
They're so close to being great.
Here's a facebook message I just got:
My son and husband loved the videos! Connor definitely struggles with confidence at the plate. He started the season slow at hitting but since we got the videos he is 8-11 at the plate! Your videos work. His confidence is through the roof! The videos were also a great bonding experience for he and his dad. Thanks for the help!!! Jessica G.
Here's an email I got from a dad on Saturday morning:
My son is a 10 year old he is actually quite good. He’s the leading pitcher plays short stop is on all the all star teams. Has a lot of success. Until he steps in the box. And lately the fear of getting hit by a pitch is overwhelming him. I purchased the lessons 2 days ago. I was planning for my son and I to watch them and on my drive home I get a phone call from my son in tears saying he’s sad because he is about to start all stars again and he knows he won’t be able to hit the better pitchers because he is so scared when he steps into the box. We watched the first four lessons of the trainings and I could see his attitude change a little, I'll let you know how he does tonight.
Here's the email he sent me late that same night:
3 for 3. 2 triples and a single.
He used your method every at bat.
You could see him still fighting those fears but wow what a difference. And the base hit was against one of the harder throwers in the league.
His smile today brought tears to me eye. He loved playing baseball today!!! Shawn B.
Ok just one more, I could read these all day:
My wife sent me a link to Bulletproof and I am incredibly thankful. She cannot remember how she came across your site, but the Lord made sure it got to me. It was an easy decision to purchase the series after reading your philosophy.
Landon and I watched the Intro and Lesson One last night. We talked through it. We discussed his fears and some tips on how to change our mindset. Then he asked if we could walk out to the cage and take some BP.
When he would get frustrated I would simply remind him that we needed to change our perspective and move onto the next swing. I don’t believe that all of it set in for either of us, but I do believe that we were communicating in a way we hadn’t before. He asked if we could do one or two videos a day—how perfect is that?
Regardless of the improvement in Landon’s game, I believe the value of this investment is in the great communication I have seen in one night with my son. Priceless.
I'll be honest, that one kind of got me...I mean, how good is that???
I know finding programs online can make you scratch your head and wonder:
"Is this for real?"
And listen to me when I tell you:
Yes, this is for real.
Kid's careers are being changed and entire family weekends and relationships are being improved.
All because parents like you and me had the courage try something new for the sake of their kid's success.
And BTW, I'm not going to charge $1,000 for this either, I want this to be THE difference maker for YOUR child.
The program is called The Bulletproof Hitter, designed for baseball and softball players of all ages, to help give them the tools to deal with their emotions and play better in games.
If you're wondering if this will work for you kid...
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You'll get instant access to the course, which consists of 6 lessons that are kept fairly short: 6-12 minutes, so it will connect with any ballplayer young or old.
1. Playing Poorly Well
This game WILL come with failures, and your kid puts too much pressure on themself to succeed. This causes tension, nervousness and over-trying, all of which will wreck their performance. Your child will be taught how to let go of the pressure they're putting on themself and how to properly handle the constant failures this game throws at them.
2. Imposter Syndrome
Kids often have low self confidence because they believe that they're not good enough, or that the competition is better than it really is.
Your kid is likely comparing their inner feelings to other's outer appearance, which is unfair.
This lesson will teach them to give him/herself the credit they deserve, and also provides the #1 technique used by professional athletes to embrace their emotions and use the "nervous" energy to actually improve their game day performance!
3. Self 1 vs Self 2
Overthinking while at the plate will make it almost impossible for your kid to perform at their best. In this lesson we teach that players are actually two people: Self 1 the "teller" and Self 2 the "doer". This lesson will prove to your child that if they are having success at any time - in practice, at home, in the cage, wherever - that that's proof that they can trust themselves as a capable hitter on gameday.
4. Quieting Self 1
Once your child realizes that Self 2 is their best self who performs so well in practice, they need to learn how to turn off the inner chatter and make Self 1 "go away". But how do you do that??? This lesson is packed with applications - real strategies a player can use to occupy their mind, soothe the nerves and allow for their powerful and confident swing to be with them at the plate!
5. Act As If
Maybe my favorite concept ever, such a game changer. Confidence is everything, and in this lesson we train your kid to act confidently BEFORE they have positive results. Too often we let the results dictate how we feel about ourselves, but we have it backwards! We have to act like a confident person BEFORE we have great success. This lesson gives instruction on how to do just that.
6. Detach from Outcomes
In a game where having success 30% of the time is good, attaching self worth to his results will ruin your child's confidence. Stress, nervousness and worry come from players internalizing failures more than they should. In this lesson players are given multiple strategies to help them personally detach from the outcomes and perform boldly and care free on game day.
Not to brag here, but
this training is outstanding
...I wish I was given this when I was a player.
But hold on just one minute...
I've got two more things I want to share with you:
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$3,000 would have been well worth it to achieve that result. But the concern was...what if you DON'T get me on page 1??
These were just some random dudes I found online...how was I supposed to trust them?
So I suggested to them that if they get me on page 1 in three months, I'll pay them $6,000, double what they're asking....BUT, if I'm not on page 1, I'll pay $500.
(I wanted to offer $0 but knew that wouldn't fly).
What did they say? "Welllllll, it's going to involve a lot of our time in creating links, blah blah blah." So no agreement was made.
Because I wasn't investing in their time, I needed a result.
And I know you are investing in your child's improvement, so if this program doesn't make your son or daughter a better player, not only do you get your initial money back...
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My wife said, "People are going to scam you!" (lol)
I said "I don't think they will, the bad folks will have stopped reading long ago. People who have read to this point will be people like us....good people who just want to support their kid. So I'm fine with the 200% "
This is how serious I am about making your child better.
When this works, it'll be worth 5x what you invested, but if somehow you aren't in love then I'll get you taken care of, 200%.
I'm putting my money where my mouth is... GIVE THIS A TRY. Don't let your child miss out.
Believe me, this package is well worth the investment on its own.
It definitely changed some of the things I've always believed in and has improved how I help my son.
You're probably wondering how many hundreds this investment in your child is going to be.
You've already invested hundreds (thousands?) this season alone on equipment and training that hasn't been the difference maker....
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So don't wait.
I've intentionally made it hard for "Those Parents" to stick around to this point.
You know who I'm talking about - the ones who have it all figured out already...
...who are skeptical of every new method and improvement...
...who think their kid's problem will go away on it's own.
There's no helping them, and their kids suffer because of it.
But there's REAL hope for parents like us.
You're gonna want your kid to encounter this training because you will love the new emotional and mental strength you will see from your child...
...and will enjoy more success on the field as a result.
This training works, and it's not okay for your kid be 18 or 20 years old (or in most cases, never) when they encounter some of these concepts that could have made the difference.
It will be too late!
You have an opportunity right now to step up and help your child.
And seriously, what is your other alternative?
Keep *hoping* they pull it together?
The mind is a wild, destructive animal when left alone.
You have to take action.
Your kid wants to play better, they want to control their emotions...
and I will help them do just that.
That's my promise to you.
Click that button, you'll be very pleased you did!
Thanks, God Bless you and your family and now let's get to work!!
Proverbs 15:22 Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.