It's a new world we're living in today.
And while we are all excited to get back on the field...
I think we can agree there are some "old" ways that we shouldn't bring back.
For instance, let me ask you:
Is your kid playing great in practice...
...but struggling in games?
Or do they really struggle to move on from a bad moment?
Well if so, I've got a little secret that I want to share with you right now:
More practice is NOT going to fix their problem.
Neither is telling them what they're doing wrong, or suggesting that they "relax" or "stay confident".
That's the old way.
And it's not that these are bad suggestions or anything...in fact, they're spot on.
The problem is, it just doesn't work.
While "Believe in yourself" and "Don't worry about it" is perfect advice...
It is TERRIBLE instruction!
Like, "Oh okay just be confident *snaps fingers*, now I am better!"
You can't talk someone into being confident.
Take my son for example.
In practice he'd be great. He had as much ability as everyone, his actions were smooth, confident and strong.
And then come game time, things would change.
A tough moment would happen and that player I've seen all week in practice...
would just disappear.
So that'd start the cycle of him feeling bad about himself, wondering what other people are thinking about him and finally thinking bad thoughts about what kind of player he is.
So now that I was seeing these doubts, fears and concerns play tricks on my son...
...and my hollow suggestions of "just stay confident, be aggressive" having no impact at all...
I knew there had to be a better way.
And there IS a better way.
Now, here's something to think about...
What if getting your kid to consistently perform at their best was less about following directions and endless repetitions in practice...
...and more about giving them the tools and steps for them to handle their emotions to ALLOW for their training and skill to shine on gameday.
Really think about that.
Because the mind left alone on the field is like a wild beast rampaging through a city.
You can't just talk this beast into behaving...
...or just hope that he goes away.
Action needs to be taken to eliminate the problem.
Now, I have four techniques to share with you that when applied will make an ACTUAL difference in your kid's performance.
But before I do I want to share a quick example with you...
The Jones' vs The Lovejoy's is a concept I came up with to help demonstrate the two camps or mindsets that us as parents and players operate within.
Although these are not real “flesh and blood” people per se — their traits are absolutely real and based on real people.
You’re currently one of ’em.
Which one? … well, you’ll need to read the rest of this page to discover that.
But know this … one of them is struggling through this youth sports process.
The other is crushing it.
You see, the Jones family means well.
Little Jones loves the game.
And while he's not the best on his team, there are moments when he puts it all together and is really great.
He says that he wants to play soccer in college or go pro someday, and while that's too far off to think about, his parents want to give him every opportunity to reach his goals, whatever that might be.
The problem is that his smooth, quick, carefree movements that he shows at home and at practice hasn't been there on gameday.
Hesitation on the field.
Mistimed tackles. Over-hit cross.
Playing careful to avoid mistakes.
And is often intimidated by the opponent and has bad body after any poor moment.
And this happens time and time again.
Dad thinks "If only he trust the work he's put in during practice, things would be so much better."
And on the car ride home, Dad really gets on a roll.
He doesn't yell...but he's not exactly calm either.
"What were you doing out there?"
"Just be aggressive"
"You know that thing you worked on in practice? You didn't do that at all today."
And so is everyone else in the car.
Now, back to the real world...
...and I'll be honest with you, me and my son have been just like the Jones family.
But I finally decided that I didn't want this to be our experience.
I wanted my kid to give HIMSELF a chance to succeed, and see what he can do.
And I certainly don't want our youth sport experience (which should be peak family bonding right?) to be filled with such tension.
So I looked into options.
I read books.
I called on the best minds I could get a hold of.
And I found fantastic news.
There are ACTUALLY steps and strategies that players can use to combat their nerves and play their best - in any sport.
There is a way to become the Lovejoy's.
In fact, there are many ways for a player to calm the mind and perform with freedom and confidence.
Some so simple, and yet we don't even show these to our kids.
And in the year 2020 with this being such a problem, this just isn't okay for me.
Imagine if I sent a kid out into the forest and said, "Go kill a bear."
...and gave them no tool or weapon to accomplish the task!
"Figure it out my friend, find a way!
"...oh, and stay confident!"
That kid isn't going to last long out there.
And that's EXACTLY what we're doing with our kids on the field...
Dribbling isn't what's so hard. Defending isn't what is so hard...
...it's dealing with the mental demons!
We parents and coaches ask them to slay these demons and give them no tools to do so.
And the result??
Yep, these kids aren't lasting long out there.
But the strategies are out there and I didn't want to wonder "What if" I had shown these techniques to my kid.
He wasn't going to be a Jones, he was going to be a Lovejoy.
So the first technique to becoming a Lovejoy is:
The emotion of feeling nervous feels ALMOST EXACTLY like the emotion of being excited.
The difference is simply in how the mind labels these feelings.
So when a player feels those vibrations in the body, she is not to say that she's "nervous" or has "the jitters"...
...rather she is "excited".
She is "ready".
Changing the words we use will LITERALLY change the way our brain signals to the body.
So instead of trying to apply their training with the body thinking "Oh no, there's a problem"...
...the body now believes "Ok this is great, we're prepared and all is perfect. Let's go".
Which mindset do you think will allow for more fluid and confident motions?
Feeling these vibrations of "excitement" are not just normal, they're required.
Really, you don't want to calm down. That's not the goal.
Take a look at these three race horses:
Now you tell me, if these horses were going to race 60 seconds from now...
Who are you betting your money on?
Look at horse number one, he is nice and relaxed.
Shoot, he's laying down!!!
He's the horse our kids *think* they should feel like when they compete.
When we tell our kids to relax, they THINK that they shouldn't feel any emotion at all, and when they STILL feel the emotion they believe that something is wrong with them personally...deepening their lack of confidence and intensifying the anxiety.
Now look at horse number three, he's fired up!
The emotions of the moment are getting the best of him, and has lost focus on the task at hand.
And finally if you look closely at horse number two...
I want you to see this very clearly:
This horse is not calm.
It's hard to tell in the photo, his emotions have him walking a little sideways here.
The emotions are pumping through his body at a very high level, but he's still locked in to the moment.
If you're the owner of this horse with millions of dollars on the line..
...would you want him to calm down?
Of course not.
Another example is Korean baseball - who was the first major sport to come back to play in front of empty stadiums.
Players have said it feels a little more like practice than a game.
And a surprising result:
The average fastball is down 3+ miles per hour.
Without those extra "nerves" the body just doesn't seem to have access to that liiiiitle extra that tends to make all the difference.
Realize that the game time emotions and adrenaline actually give you a sort of super Power.
So instead of focusing on how "different" and "nervous" you feel out there, welcome it.
"Yes, it's here! I'm ready to do this."
Understanding this concept will change everything.
I love this one...
This involves a little role playing and visualization and is used by the Lovejoy's of the world.
Ask yourself, how would Lionel Messi feel in this moment?
How would he stand?
How would he act after a bad pass?
Would he lose his confidence? Would he say bad things about himself? Would he think about quitting?
So YOU should behave the same way in those same situations.
Just straight up pretend if you have to.
Here's a great quote from "The Inner Game of Tennis":
"With our athletes we use a type of role playing.
We say, "Imagine that I am the director of a television series. Knowing that you are an actor that plays tennis, I ask if you would like to do a bit part as a top-flight tennis player. I assure you that you needn't worry about hitting the ball out or into the net because the camera will only be focused on you and will not follow the ball.
What I'm mainly interested in is that you adopt professional mannerisms, and that you swing your racket with superior self-assurance.
Above all, your face must express no self doubt. You should look as if you are hitting every ball exactly where you want to. Really get into the role, hit as hard as you like and ignore where the ball is actually going."
Tim Gallwey, "The Inner Game of Tennis"
This is so big.
You cannot wait to experience positive results before you start behaving with confidence.
I'm gonna say that again to make sure you get this one:
You cannot wait to experience positive results before you start behaving with confidence.
So act confident NOW, even if you don't have much reason to. And THEN positive results will follow.
And there is one more crucial element to becoming more like The Lovejoy's...
because there are two ways a player's emotions are influenced.
The first is through their own thoughts, which we've touched on already.
And the second is by what they are told.
Mom and Dad, if you want your kid to play like a Lovejoy, YOU have to make some adjustments as well.
And this isn't a "Oh hey say nice things to your kid because this is just a game and it's the right thing to do."
There's a little bit of that involved, but this is more of:
"This is what is effective in getting your child to perform at their best."
How does the ride home sound in your car?
When little Jones has a sub par game, he gets in the car and the instructing begins...
"You were moping around too much, you've gotta stop doing that."
"Remember what we worked on practice? You didn't do that today."
And Dad isn't wrong about any of these statements, but the fact remains...
...is that this isn't helping.
So little Jones came to the game nervous, made some mistakes and is now hearing all about it in the car.
SOUNDS LIKE FUN!!
But these problems need to be addressed, right?
So, what does the Lovejoy family car ride look like?
As it turns out, studies show that players don't like being TOLD what to do.
(Shocker, I know)
But they don't mind being asked questions.
"How were you feeling out there today?"
"What do you think went well today?"
"What could have gone better?"
By asking questions, little Lovejoy is encouraged to take ownership of his own growth and improvement.
Because he's prompted to think about how to improve, he is not feeling embarrassed about his mistakes.
Instead of focusing on all of the mistakes like the Jones' car, the Lovejoy are focusing on solutions and improvement.
And do you really want to know the magic of asking questions?
This one is so important...
Little Lovejoy almost ALWAYS comes to the same conclusion that Dad wanted to tell him/her about in the first place.
So while Mr. Lovejoy is empowering his kid and is now looking for new ways to strengthen their confidence...
Mr. Jones is suggesting more practice.
But you tell me...
Will more practice fix the Jones' problem?
I've been a Jones and I'm living life currently as Lovejoy.
And it's good.
It's definitely better.
There are REAL methods you can use to help your kid manage their emotions.
And as you know, they're *so* close to being great.
They just need a little help.
And in this new reality kids don't have to be stuck using old and ineffective methods.
So I put together a training and made it is simple and short as possible so kids could understand it...
...and it has quickly turned into the #1 confidence program in the country (over 8,000 families transformed)
And before I get into the details of the program, I want you to know one thing:
It just works.
I get thank you emails and messages every day about what a difference the program has made for their player.
In fact, I even print them out and put them on my wall in my home office because it makes me feel good.
Take a look:
When players go through the program they play with more confidence and have more fun on game day.
Simple as that.
And that's all us parents really want right?
Maybe some are out for scholarship money and world domination, but for parents like us, we just want them to ENJOY the game again.
And I will show your child how to get out of their own way and be their best self on game day.
I share a dozen different techniques and all it takes is just a SINGLE concept to connect with your kid to turn them into a totally different player on gameday...
...to go from a Jones to a Lovejoy.
How dare you doubt me Dan!
Haha, nah I get it - people have been burned on the internet before. Thankful that people are finding so much value in the program.
Because kids really are SO close to being great.
Sometimes kids need juuuuuust one little boost, or permission to let themselves play well.
Here's a couple more:
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Landon and I watched the Intro and Lesson One last night. We talked through it. We discussed his fears and some tips on how to change our mindset. Then he asked if we could go outside and practice.
When he would get frustrated I would simply remind him that we needed to change our perspective and move onto the next task. I don’t believe that all of it set in for either of us, but I do believe that we were communicating in a way we hadn’t before. He asked if we could do one or two videos a day—how perfect is that?
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I'll be honest, that one kind of got me...I mean, how good is that???
Finding programs online can make you wonder:
"Is this for real?"
And trust me when I tell you:
Yes, this is for real.
Kid's careers are being changed and entire family weekends and relationships are being improved.
All because parents like you and me had the courage try something new for the sake of their kid's success.
The program is called The Bulletproof Athlete, designed for Athletes of all ages - in any sport - to help give them the tools to deal with their emotions and play better and have more fun when it matters most.
If you're wondering if this will work for you kid...
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You'll get instant access to the course, which consists of 6 lessons that are kept fairly short: 6-12 minutes, so it will connect with any athlete young or old.
1. Playing Poorly Well
This game WILL come with failures, and your kid puts too much pressure on themself to succeed. This causes tension, nervousness and over-trying, all of which will wreck their performance. Your child will be taught how to let go of the pressure they're putting on themself and how to properly handle the constant failures this game throws at them.
2. Imposter Syndrome
Kids often have low self confidence because they believe that they're not good enough, or that the competition is better than it really is.
Your kid is likely comparing their inner feelings to other's outer appearance, which is unfair.
This lesson will teach them to give him/herself the credit they deserve, and also provides the #1 technique used by professional athletes to embrace their emotions and use the "nervous" energy to actually improve their game day performance!
3. Self 1 vs Self 2
Overthinking while competing will make it almost impossible for your kid to perform at their best. In this lesson we teach that players are actually two people: Self 1 the "teller" and Self 2 the "doer". This lesson will prove to your child that if they are having success at any time - in practice, at home, wherever - that that's proof that they can trust themselves as a capable player on game day.
4. Quieting Self 1
Once your child realizes that Self 2 is their best self who performs so well in practice, they need to learn how to turn off the inner chatter and make Self 1 "go away". But how do you do that??? This lesson is packed with applications - real strategies a player can use to occupy their mind, soothe the nerves and allow for their smooth and confident movements to be with them when it matters!
5. Act As If
Maybe my favorite concept ever, such a game changer. Confidence is everything, and in this lesson we train your kid to act confidently BEFORE they have positive results. Too often we let the results dictate how we feel about ourselves, but we have it backwards! We have to act like a confident person BEFORE we have great success. This lesson gives instruction on how to do just that.
6. Detach from Outcomes
In a game wit so much failure, attaching self worth to his results will ruin your child's confidence. Stress, nervousness and worry come from players internalizing failures more than they should. In this lesson players are given multiple strategies to help them personally detach from the outcomes and perform boldly and care free on game day.
Not to brag here, but,
this training is outstanding.
It's so different than anything your player has been taught before.
But hold on just one minute...
I've got one more thing I want to share with you:
After I finished my playing days in pro ball, I sold building materials. Getting my website to rank on the first page of Google was really important, and one "SEO" company wanted $1,000 a month, and assured me that I'd be on page 1 after three months.
$3,000 would have been well worth it to achieve that result. But the concern was...what if you DON'T get me on page 1??
These were just some random dudes I found online...how was I supposed to trust them?
So I suggested to them that if they get me on page 1 in three months, I'll pay them $6,000, double what they're asking....BUT, if I'm not on page 1, I'll pay $500.
(I wanted to offer $0 but knew that wouldn't fly).
What did they say? "Welllllll, it's going to involve a lot of our time in creating links, blah blah blah." So no agreement was made.
Because I wasn't investing in their time, I needed a result.
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Zero risk to you.
When this works, it'll be worth 10x what you invested, but if somehow you aren't in love then I'll get you taken care of, 100%.
GIVE THIS A TRY. Don't let your child miss out.
You're probably wondering how many hundreds this investment in your child is going to be.
And imagine if your player could quickly improve their confidence, not be so hard on themself and play better when they need to...
...how much would that be worth?
A ton right!?
You've already invested piles of cash - hundreds if not thousands this season alone on equipment and training - yet something is missing.
...so I want this to be an absolutely no-brainer, so for a limited time you can get instant & lifetime access to The Bulletproof Athlete and the 100% money back-risk-free guarantee
Or you can invest that money in another local training lesson :/
So don't wait.
You're gonna want your kid to encounter this training because you will love the new emotional and mental strength you will see from your child...
...and will enjoy more success on the field as a result.
This training works, and it's not okay for your kid be 18 or 20 years old (or in most cases, never) when they encounter some of these concepts that could have made the difference.
It will be too late!
You have an opportunity right now to step up and help your child.
And seriously, what is your other alternative?
Keep *hoping* they pull it together?
The mind is a wild, destructive animal when left alone.
You have to take action.
Your kid wants to play better, they want to control their emotions...
and I will help them do just that.
That's my promise to you.
Click that button, you'll be very pleased you did!
From my family to yours, God Bless and now let's get to work!!
Proverbs 15:22 Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.